Walking the Tightrope: Balancing Professionalism and Empathy When Dealing with Difficult Drivers
Manage tough carriers with clear expectations, communication, training, feedback, dispute resolution, policy enforcement, rewards, and compromise.
DISPATCHING 101
Edward Seporaitis
12/19/20238 min read


In the trucking industry, managing a fleet involves far more than just dealing with logistical and operational challenges. One of the most complex tasks is managing the human interactions and personalities within your team of drivers and staff. This includes learning how to effectively work with and guide more difficult carriers - those who exhibit challenging behaviors like rudeness, unrealistic demands, or refusal to comply with policies. Successfully managing these issues is crucial for maintaining a cohesive, harmonious, and productive fleet environment. This article provides key strategies for identifying and constructively addressing conflicts with difficult carriers. The aim is to help create open communication, mutual understanding, and a culture of respect within your team. With the right approach, every conflict can become an opportunity for learning and improvement. The following sections cover setting expectations, building trust through open dialogue, enforcement of policies, and techniques for resolving disputes in a calm and balanced manner. By implementing these practices, fleet managers can transform even the most difficult situations into experiences that strengthen their management capabilities and interpersonal skills.
Identifying Difficult Carriers
Difficult carriers tend to exhibit certain problematic behaviors that can disrupt fleet operations. Being able to recognize these behaviors is an important first step in addressing the issues. Some of the key challenges presented by difficult carriers include:
Unrealistic Expectations
These carriers may make unreasonable demands about pay rates, routes, loads, time off, equipment, and other aspects of the job. For example, a driver may insist on only taking high-paying loads on easy routes. However, from a logistical standpoint, this may not align with customer needs or overall fleet operations. Unrealistic expectations often stem from a lack of understanding of the bigger picture.
Rudeness and Disrespect
Some difficult carriers demonstrate outright disrespectful behavior towards dispatchers, management, and fellow drivers. This may include ignoring instructions, using foul language, making threats, or confronting colleagues in a belligerent manner. Such hostility creates a toxic environment for everyone.
Non-Compliance
Intentionally disregarding company policies and industry regulations is a serious issue. This may include falsifying log books, refusing drug tests, skipping mandatory break times, or exceeding speed limits or load restrictions. Such actions compromise safety and compliance.
Recognizing these problematic behaviors is an essential first step in working towards solutions. Understanding the challenges at hand allows fleet managers to address difficulties in a focused, constructive manner.
Setting Clear Expectations
Having clear and transparent communication with carriers from the very beginning is crucial to avoiding issues down the road. This starts from the hiring process, where you should be upfront about:
- Pay rates, bonuses, and benefits
- Expected workloads and schedules
- Customer service policies and standards
- Safety and compliance rules and regulations
- Consequences for not meeting expectations
Being open about what your company provides and what is expected of carriers helps set the tone for the working relationship. Drivers understand exactly what they are signing up for.
It's also important to provide carriers with an employee handbook or written policies so expectations are clearly documented. This covers topics like:
- Attendance, vacation, and scheduling
- Protocols for loading/unloading
- Equipment maintenance and inspection
- Accident reporting procedures
- Harassment and discrimination policies
- Drug testing policies
With clear policies in place from the start, there is less room for confusion or unrealistic demands down the line. Regularly reviewing policies and procedures demonstrates continued commitment to transparency.
When both sides understand the terms of the arrangement, carriers are more likely to meet expectations. Setting clear rules and responsibilities early prevents difficulties in carrier relations.
Fostering Open Communication
Fostering open communication with drivers is crucial for resolving issues before they escalate. Establishing regular check-ins provides a forum for drivers to voice concerns, ask questions, and have any confusion addressed. These check-ins can be one-on-one meetings, group calls, anonymous surveys, or informal conversations during routine interactions.
The key is to create an environment where drivers feel comfortable bringing up problems proactively, rather than letting frustrations build up. Make it clear you have an open door policy and that drivers should reach out about any issues, big or small. Listen without judgment and make sure their perspectives are heard.
Addressing concerns promptly shows drivers their feedback is valued, which further encourages open communication. When drivers know they have outlets for airing grievances respectfully, they are less likely to resort to more problematic behaviors stemming from pent-up frustrations.
Regular communication and discussions of challenges in a constructive manner is vital for maintaining positive relationships and harmony within a fleet. An open and transparent forum transforms driver-manager interactions from simply transactional to more collaborative. This fosters greater understanding on both sides and enables smoother operations.
Providing Training and Support
Sometimes, difficult behavior stems from a lack of understanding or knowledge gaps. Providing relevant training and support to carriers can help mitigate these issues. Consider offering:
- Training on policies and procedures - Conduct training sessions that clearly outline company policies, safety regulations, customer service protocols, and other procedures carriers are expected to follow. Ensure they understand the reasons behind the policies.
- Customer service training - Drivers interacting with customers reflect on your company's brand. Customer service training can give them skills for handling challenges professionally and leaving customers satisfied. Role playing different scenarios can help prepare them.
- Compliance training - Make sure carriers are well-versed on FMCSA and DOT regulations for safety, emissions, maintenance, driving hours, drug testing, and other rules. Compliance training protects drivers and your business from violations. Refresh periodically.
Equipping carriers with clear understanding through training demonstrates your commitment to their success. It also sets clear expectations for conduct. Make training an ongoing investment for a harmonious and productive fleet.
Implementing a Feedback System
Getting input from both drivers and staff is key to understanding issues and resolving conflicts within your fleet. Consider setting up mechanisms to encourage two-way feedback.
Driver Feedback Mechanisms
- Hold regular one-on-one meetings with drivers to discuss any concerns and get their perspective on company operations. Be open to criticism and suggestions.
- Create an anonymous feedback system where drivers can voice complaints or make recommendations without fear of retaliation. Survey tools or locked drop boxes can facilitate this.
- Form a driver committee or council that meets regularly to surface and discuss any fleet issues. Elect drivers to represent the group.
- Maintain an open-door policy that encourages drivers to come to management about any problems as soon as they arise.
Staff Feedback Mechanisms
- Conduct regular staff meetings to identify areas for fleet improvement. Brainstorm and develop solutions as a team.
- Administer annual or biannual staff surveys to gauge job satisfaction, views on company culture and management effectiveness. Track year-over-year trends.
- Encourage staff to provide informal feedback on interactions with difficult drivers. Record details to help discern patterns or biases.
- Develop a formal process for staff to anonymously report any unsafe or unprofessional driver behaviors they witness. Investigate and follow up on all reports.
Handling Disputes Calmly and Professionally
When conflicts arise between drivers and management staff, it's crucial to handle disputes in a calm and professional manner. Losing your temper or reacting emotionally often exacerbates the situation rather than resolving it.
When a driver lodges a complaint or a disagreement arises, start by listening fully to their perspective. Give them ample time to voice their concerns without interruption. Avoid being defensive even if you feel the driver is in the wrong.
Next, provide your viewpoint calmly and clearly. Stick to the facts and avoid emotional language. Present company policies objectively without accusing or blaming the driver.
With both perspectives shared, work together to find middle ground and a reasonable resolution. Be willing to compromise when possible, as an agreement that satisfies both parties is always preferable to "winning" the argument.
Keep in mind that the long term relationship with your driver is important. End the conversation on a positive note and follow up to ensure the resolution had the intended effect. With patience and professionalism, even difficult disputes can reach amicable solutions.
Setting Consequences for Non-Compliance
When carriers demonstrate disrespectful behavior or fail to comply with company policies, it's crucial that consequences are consistently enforced. This shows that certain actions will not be tolerated and empowers managers to address problematic behavior right away.
Some steps for setting consequences include:
- Clearly communicating policies and expectations from the start, so carriers understand rules and penalties.
- Following a system of escalating consequences for non-compliance, such as verbal warnings, written warnings, probation period, and termination.
- Applying consequences consistently and fairly, regardless of the person. Avoid making exceptions that undermine enforcement.
- Documenting each incident thoroughly so you can show evidence if questioned later.
- Being prompt in addressing issues rather than allowing problems to continue.
- Allowing drivers to explain their perspective, but not tolerating excessive arguing about consequences.
- Ensuring managers have support from upper management in enforcement.
Setting and upholding clear consequences demonstrates that policies are meaningful and non-compliance has real impacts. Drivers will realize they are accountable for their actions. This helps maintain harmony and discipline across your whole fleet.
Recognizing and Rewarding Positive Behavior
Acknowledging and rewarding positive behavior from drivers is crucial for reinforcing professionalism and compliance with company policies. When drivers consistently demonstrate adherence to rules and provide great service, it is important to recognize their efforts. Some effective ways to do this include:
- Providing verbal praise and recognition. A simple "thank you" or acknowledgment of a job well done goes a long way. Drivers appreciate being recognized for their hard work and professionalism.
- Offering incentives or bonuses. Consider providing small bonuses, gift cards, or extra time off as a reward for drivers who maintain stellar records. These types of incentives can motivate continued positive behavior.
- Giving awards. Outstanding drivers can be recognized through a "Driver of the Month" award or other formal commendations. Publicly praising their accomplishments boosts morale.
- Writing recommendation letters. For drivers seeking new opportunities, a letter from management highlighting their reliability, safety record, and professionalism can help their career advancement.
- Promoting their accomplishments on social media or in newsletters. Positive reinforcement can be amplified when successes are shared publicly. This fosters an environment where professionalism is the norm.
Reinforcing positive behavior through acknowledgement and rewards is always preferable to punishing negative behavior. Drivers respond better to support and incentive than to reprimand. Consistent, positive reinforcement helps create a culture of mutual understanding and excellence.
Dealing with Unreasonable Demands
When a driver makes demands that are unrealistic or unreasonable, there are a few strategies fleet managers can try:
- Negotiate and compromise where possible. Even if a demand seems extreme at first, take time to have an open discussion and try to find middle ground. For example, if a driver is asking for a large pay increase that isn't feasible, consider a smaller raise or bonus structure. Demonstrate that you are willing to work with the driver, while also explaining the constraints you face as a manager.
- Clearly explain limitations and restrictions. If certain demands simply aren't possible, communicate directly why that is the case. Provide details about regulations, budgets, fleet capacity, or other factors that prevent you from meeting a specific demand. Transparency can help minimize misunderstandings.
- Develop creative solutions. If a demand points to an underlying issue, brainstorm to find alternatives. For instance, if a driver wants better routes, could you adjust the dispatching schedule or fleet network to improve their options? Getting to the root of the problem can reveal solutions.
- Suggest a trial or pilot. For large requests that carry risk, propose testing on a small scale first. Set defined parameters and checkpoints to determine if a change is workable before full implementation.
- Discuss next steps if no compromise reached. Make it clear what will happen if no agreement can be reached. Review company policies, compliance regulations, and potential consequences. With no compromise, it may be necessary to part ways.
The goal is to demonstrate good faith efforts, show willingness to work together, but also hold firm to limitations when no compromise is feasible. Handled right, even unreasonable demands can strengthen trust and communication between fleet managers and drivers.